I’ve never had someone outright ask me if I’m marrying Brandon for his money. Strangers aren’t that brazen and my friends know me too well to need to ask but look: it’s a valid question.
When one person is significantly wealthier than the other, it begs the question. And it’s a responsible question that people are too easily offended by. To me, you’re an idiot if you don’t marry for money. I’m not alone in this either.
I found this witty, enlightening article by Lisa-Marie Lloyd where she breaks down her not so popular opinion that you should marry for money. She pulls a quote from Elizabeth Gilbert, sharing: “A recent survey of young American women found that what women are seeking these days in a husband – more than anything else – is a man who will ‘inspire’ them, which is, by any measure, a tall order. As a point of comparison, young women of the same age, surveyed back in the 1920s, were more likely to choose a partner based on qualities such as ‘decency,’ ‘honesty,’ or his ability to provide for a family.”
Now don’t get me wrong here – I am absolutely, 100% inspired by Brandon. It’s the original reason I was attracted to him. But this would be the silliest reason to get married because I’m also inspired by Beyonce, Sophia Amoruso, and my mom – with no plans in the near future to marry any of them. Inspiration is great and I honestly believe it’s core to why I love Brandon the way I do. He will forever be on a pedestal to me because he pushes harder than anyone I know and has the uncanny ability to create something magical out of nothing. But let’s talk about why his money is an attractive quality and the nitty gritty of why marrying for money brings more than what meets the eye:
Reasons I’m Marrying For Money
He made it himself
Drake said it best: started from the bottom now he’s here. No, but seriously: he’s worked his entire life to create what he has. No hand outs. No free rides. He’s a true blooded entrepreneur who had an idea that created shared value to his team and customers. To me, this is the best kind of money you can have. He is in the drivers seat but isn’t afraid to roll up his sleeves in order to create the next round of growth. He doesn’t protect it. Or hedge it. He has smart money principles that I respect. This is important.
He’s created a lifestyle that I could only have dreamed of
Let’s not pretend. I was young when we started dating and had never seen the world, shopped in a designer store, or known the difference between cut, color, carat, and clarity. He’s taught me everything he knows, we’ve seen more places than I knew existed, and I have more things than I know what to do with. I say this with the utmost humility: I appreciate everything he generously gives me. I talked about this earlier this week and it just needs to be stated again: I am the luckiest woman on the planet and the lifestyle he provides is not lost on me.
He gives and gives and gives
You can’t give what you don’t have. Seems silly but it’s true. The more you have, the greater your ability is to give. This was the very first lesson he taught me when I started working for him and he lives this principle. Brandon is a giver – not just to me, but to all of the people he loves and the causes we’re passionate about. He truly believes that giving is better than receiving and I watch him live this core value time and time again. I believe he gives freely because he comes from a place of abundance.
So yes – I am marrying for money. And love. And trust. And inspiration. The list goes on because our relationship is just like yours – too complicated to simplify it down to a couple components. And honestly, people get married for all sorts of crazy reasons – why does money get a bad rap? Money is more than the things you buy – it’s the philosophy behind the person who has it. From the outside, it’s easy to make assumptions that younger women in age gap relationships with older men are willing to forgo the “love” in lieu of the “money”. But what I’ve learned is you can’t summarize why people choose to spend their lives together by face value. It may look like money, to an outsider, but the deepest, most connected and human part of you needs to give people more credit. It’s never love or money. It’s both – and so much more.
See you tomorrow.
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