Just this past weekend, we ran into an old friend of Brandon’s that is no longer present in his life. He and Brandon grew apart as Brandon and I grew together because he and his wife were rather nasty about our relationship. You know the type: judgmental behind your back but nosey and asking 5892014 questions to your face.

We heard the things they would say to our friends and, at first, it made me insecure. I thought it was me. My young self wondered if people would ever accept us. If I was going to be good enough. If this relationship could whether people’s opinions. If I was going to become a shadow of myself to protect myself from being judged.

Seeing them this weekend – these same thoughts initially washed over me.

But my adult self doesn’t actually care about uninformed opinion.  And as the one and only Erika Girardi would say,  go be offended at your own life.

People who gossip are poison. It is not you. It is them. Don’t for a moment allow them to make you think that you are less than. Say bye bye to anyone who makes you feel inferior because of their “opinion” of you, your life choices, or the people you choose to love. It is brutally painful when the people of your past can’t seem to hop on board with your future. But we have one life, ladies and gentleman. And there are 7.5 billion people on this planet. Go find new friends. I promise your people are out there. And they will meet you where you are at and support you in your next phase of life. I refuse to waste my time with unsupportive people.

I know this is easier said than done. So if you’re needing some emotional back up, here’s my go to playlist for songs that remind me life is too short to waste time on things that don’t matter. Download these songs, go for a 20 minute drive, roll the windows down, and let loose. Whenever I play this playlist, I end up dancing like a fool and screaming the words at the top of my lungs. In each song, the lyrics speak truth and hit me in a powerful way that moves my perspective dynamically: from being inward focused to focusing on the way I love others and the impact I can make. If you let them, I promise these songs will move you too. It’s liberating and might be exactly what you need to shake off everyone’s opinions and get in touch with your own.

Age Gap Music

Smile – Jay Z

Crooked Smile – J. Cole

Too Much – Drake

Heard About Us – The Carters

Ten Thousand Hours – Macklemore

Love Yourz – J Cole

Something I Need – One Republic

Mother We Just Can’t Get Enough – New Radicals

Victory Lap – Macklemore

The Show Goes On – Lupe Fiasco

XO – Beyonce

Yellow (Live in Sydney) – Coldplay

 

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  1. Susan Gore

    Enjoyed your blogs Natalie, Good for you for living your own life, you are not hurting anyone, only Making one man very HapPy and trying to Gain the trust of his children. I think you aRe a Brave, compassionate person and wish you both the best of luck!

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